So sorry to hear this! I completely understand, because until just over a year ago, I was faced with exactly the same dilemma. If I put “Trans” in my bio, it was like a dinner bell for every possible kink out there. I went on a number of first dates and told the guys afterwards. Most were very cool, but a few took it quite badly. Fortunately one said, “let’s see where this goes.” 18 months later we’re still going strong. It makes me very sad that Tinder has decided to target Trans women this way, because if dating is difficult for most women, it’s significantly more challenging for us!