Of course, you’re absolutely right. Any argument otherwise is simply bad advice. Fortunately I didn’t follow it. I met my guy first on a dating app, and told him after he asked me out a second time. Bad idea? Definitely. Did things work out? Yes! 18 months later we are very happy and in love. The best part is the entire single community isn’t frowning on him for choosing me, because I didn’t advertise being Transgender to everyone I went out with. My take away? It’s a high risk move and I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it, but no one said this was a safe path in the first place.