Joanna-
It’s a very painful path and challenging decision to come out and transition. Not only for ourselves, but for those we love. I have imagined the scenarios you described myself. What if someone close to me did the same thing? I believe it’s important to consider those important to us as we move towards transition. Fortunately, it’s not as unheard of as it once seemed.
I don’t know if there is a right or wrong approach to this experience. I don’t question the necessity of transition, but it’s important to consider the consequences.