I remember well these questions. They haunted me as you describe so accurately.
I knew at some point I had to settle my internal argument once and for all. For me that meant putting all I had into a complete transition.
Since then the questions have lessened and my mind calmed. No more back and forth.
Sometimes I think it was my hormones battling for supremacy in my brain. I certainly put that battle to rest.
I hope you can arrive at some peace with this journey. Your story was almost like a PTSD flashback for me.
I know we are all on different paths with different destinations, but what I’ve witnessed is that the space along the way is the toughest part of the road.
All the best!
Genivieve