Great story. I empathize. I think the truth is it would have been complicated regardless. Your transition and being Transgender is just a familiar and easy scapegoat for things that are outside of your control. So often I have found myself seeking blame for unfortunate events in my children's lives that are not directly related to my transition at all. You are Kat, but Pops is still in there too. I hope one day your grandson will understand that.