As embarrassing as it is to admit, this “game” has been a revelation to me post transition. In defense of the men however, they also have been sucked into the “game” from an entirely different angle. One equally as opaque to women as this one you describe formerly was to me. Men, do definitely get a game that is fixed to their advantage, but most have a hard time witnessing that because once again, the female “game” is invisible to them.